Navigating BPD Recovery: A Path to Functional Wellness

Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD) is often misunderstood and stigmatized, leading many to believe that a complete cure is impossible. While it's true that some wounds of past traumas may leave lifelong scars, the concept of functional recovery offers a more hopeful and realistic perspective. This article explores what BPD recovery means, the journey to high functioning BPD, and the importance of recognizing and celebrating functional recovery.

Reframing the Concept of Recovery:

The term functional recovery has been quite helpful in addressing the daily energy required to manage BPD symptoms. It conveys the idea that becoming 'high functioning' with more ease is entirely possible and has been proven through countless experiences and studies. The concept signifies a level of functioning that, while not a complete cure, enables individuals to lead almost unbelievably easier and more enjoyable lives.

The Incurable Nature of BPD:

The idea of BPD being 'incurable' and 'lifelong' can be particularly daunting and may exacerbate feelings of hopelessness and suicidal ideation. It's important to acknowledge, however, that thinking of BPD as 'incurable' in the same way as Type 1 diabetes is beneficial. Just as those with diabetes need to take daily steps to manage their condition, those with BPD need to regularly adapt and address their symptoms as their daily lives evolve. Through learning and practicing effective coping mechanisms, these steps become second nature and almost subconscious.

The Journey to High Functioning BPD:

I consider myself high functioning, but I know that saying I am 'cured' feels like a disservice. I have learned how to respond to triggers, manage paranoid and impulsive thoughts, and achieve a balance between my wise mind and the integration of logic and emotions. Conflicts with my partner have become cool-headed and productive, and I can handle suicidal urges by waiting them out. I am aware of signs of dissociation and take time to ground myself. When triggered, I practice self-compassion before making decisions.

While these actions are indeed helpful and allow me to function well, I must still take these steps regularly. BPD remains a part of my life, but it's a part that is managed consciously. The journey to functional recovery may continue until the day I die, but that doesn't make it less worthwhile or less achievable.

Acceptance and Celebration:

Acknowledging that complete healing is not the only measure of success can be liberating. It's essential to celebrate the milestones achieved, both big and small, in the journey towards functional recovery. When we accept that we are not 'cured' but are working towards a more manageable and functional state, we open the door to hope, progress, and a better quality of life.

Living with BPD often means navigating the terrain of daily triggers, emotional dysregulation, and the challenges of interpersonal relationships. The journey can be exhausting, but when we put in the work and find ways to use our deep, gorgeous emotions and creativity for our benefit, the results can be truly beautiful.

A Welcoming Community:

For those struggling with BPD, it's important to know that you are not alone. Functional recovery is possible, and so is a life filled with meaningful connections and fulfilling experiences. Embrace your journey, celebrate your successes, and remember that the path to functional wellness is a journey to be proud of.

Best of luck on your journey. Together, we can find relief, help, and the tools to thrive. Let us fight for each other and support one another in this journey towards functional well-being.

Together, we rise.