Navigating the Complexities of Mental Health Crisis: A Parent’s Journey

The decision to involve mental health professionals in a child's life is often a difficult one for parents. There is a pervasive stigma surrounding mental health issues, leading some parents to seek inpatient placements for their children as a last resort. However, this approach is not without its challenges and consequences.

The Dilemma of Involving Mental Health Institutions

The journey of a parent who has to manage a child with serious mental health issues is fraught with challenges. It is not simply a matter of 'sending' the child to a mental institution; it involves a team of experts who can evaluate and advise on the best course of action. In my experience, involving mental health specialists can be both daunting and necessary, especially in times of crisis.

The Son's Developmental Challenges

Our youngest son was diagnosed with significant developmental issues during his toddlerhood. His behavior was exceptionally challenging, and despite our efforts to involve behavior therapists and seek professional guidance, we could not manage his behaviors appropriately. As he grew older, his communication skills improved, but his perception and reaction to events were increasingly concerning.

From Behavioral Therapy to Autism to Schizophrenia

Initially, he was diagnosed on the autism spectrum, then later with ADHD, before a diagnosis of psychosis before he turned 13. His intellectual abilities also declined significantly, and we faced the heartbreaking reality of managing a son with a complex and severe mental health condition. We educated ourselves about his condition, but it was often a painful process.

The Decision to Seek Inpatient Care

As his behaviors spiraled out of control and his moods became increasingly volatile, it became clear that the current treatment regimens were no longer effective. A series of volatile incidents, including an assault on me, led to a critical decision. Instead of taking him to school, we took him to the emergency room, which ultimately led to his admission to a residential facility.

Challenges in Finding the Right Treatment Regimen

Stabilizing a child with such severe mental health issues is no easy feat. It took about two years to find a medication regimen that could help manage his psychosis. Even with this, he still presents a significant risk due to his physical strength and the potential for harming others during episodes of anger. He has injured several staff members at his residential home, and I myself have been hurt twice during this period.

The Role of Parenting in Mental Health Crisis

Many people judge parents and question their role in their children's behavior. It is a common misconception that parents can control or prevent their children's actions, but in reality, there are often external factors and medical conditions at play. Despite our best efforts to provide love, support, and necessary interventions, it is not always possible to prevent extreme behavior.

Divorce and Separation from the Child

The divorce we agreed upon around two years after his hospitalization was both a painful and necessary decision. Although challenging, it allowed me to maintain a stable and supportive environment for me and my biological children. The focus on my son's mental health has been relentless, but it has not been without its toll on our family.

Conclusion

Parents who navigate the complex world of managing a child with significant mental health needs face numerous challenges. Involving mental health professionals is often a last resort, but it can provide critical support and guidance. It is essential to approach these situations with empathy, understanding, and a recognition of the broader factors at play.

If you are a parent struggling with similar challenges, please seek help. There are resources and professionals available to support you and your child. Your journey is not in vain, and you are doing everything you can.